Since entering my junior-ish year in CpE and moving off campus, it is becoming increasingly apparent to me that there is a severe lack of girls in my existance. I'm not in any freshman type classes anymore, and and I live with two other single, relatively normal, guys who seem to be an a similar position as me. I would really like to change this somehow. I go to the occasional party, but really I'm not a party sort of person, and most of the time the amount of unattached females around is absurdly small. To be honest, I'm rather socially awkward, and it takes a while for people to get to know me. I kind of think the best way to meet people might be through some student organization, but the one I participate in right now (robotics team) is not really very helpful.

I know there are other people who feel the same way, and I wonder how other people alleviate their lack of girl problems in Rolla (if at all).

sounds like you dug your own grave: UMR, robotics team, not going to parties. you did know that there is a significant deficiency of girls on each of those paths compared to just about any other correct? its not like you came here and were like "huh, guess theres not a 1:1 ratio of boys and girls here".

i knew what i was getting into when i enrolled. fortunately, i already have a special female. all i can say is - if you cant find one now, wait until you graduate. engineers make a lot of money and we all know how women feel about money

Well, I expected a 25% ratio, but these days I'm lucky if its more than 5 or 10%. Parties don't seem to really be effective venue for meeting people to me, more like an effective means for getting drunk with friends.

This is the part where you find out no one on Seek can/wants to help you.

QFT

Heh, well I didn't expect much. I guess I'm just preaching to the swampy choir.

I've thought about going to some big school like UIUC for graduate school, perhaps the opportunities are more bountiful there.

Social awkwardness won't help you out in the women department wherever you go man. I didn't have a rough time finding female friends at UMR and actually now that I go to Penn State it's not a whole lot easier (despite the fact that there are probably 18,000 more women up here). The thing you don't realize is, once you're a grad student you become inherently creepy to all undergrad women. That isn't to say with 18,000 fish in the sea if you cast a line out you won't get at least one bite...I'm just saying work on that confidence first and then everything else will fall into place.

just get lucky

I'm engaged.










































Suck it.

where was your finger biting cat when this thread was created? where God... WHERE???

I met my girlfriend a week before classes even started my freshman year. A month and a half later, we were dating. Today, we've been going strong over a year.

Perhaps it's not that I'm lucky. Perhaps it's just that I know to treasure women over technology. You have to be able to choose her over Halo every time. Otherwise, chances are you're just a typical UMR student to her.

Ehhhh... Yes and no. If you don't remain the person you are, even in relationships, no amount of women you garner will make you happy. You have to find that one person that not only lights your world on fire, but also cherishes you for who you really are.

I'm with someone who not only makes me smile any (and every) time I'm in their presence, but also someone who respects who I am and what I do for enjoyment. Plus, it doesn't hurt she likes firing up the occasional round of Halo as well.

Finding a relationship isn't as simple as putting down the video games and mingling. If you are passionate about games (or whatever, it could be sports, music, academics, etc.) then it doesn't matter if you have women falling before your feet. You won't be happy.

Aww... and it's because we're the people we are that my mom's fronting us some cash without my dad's knowing...

Yeah, I guess that's true. That doesn't really affect me, though, as I began the natural phase of devideogameation when I was in high school. By the time I got to college, I was no longer a 'gamer.' That is, with the exception of DDR which, thankfully, my girlfriend loves.

My point is that at this point, most women aren't looking for a gamer. They're looking for someone they can have a serious relationship with. If you never naturally 'fell away' from gaming and the like, you're probably not ready for a relationship. That is unless you find a woman with the same interests as you. Having a girl is a huge time commitment, but it's worth every last second.