I don't know where to start . . .

Lies, deceit, lust, greed . . . they are all a part of human nature. When combined, they make something so powerful, they're almost deadly. I'm sure that everybody has their own "dirty little secrets". They have their own passions, their own desires. Sometimes, you just want to let loose of it all. But should you? Should you let the animal inside see the surface? Especially if it's going to hurt people? If you care about somebody, why deliberately hurt him or her over and over and over again? Everybody has his or her own characteristics. Can some of them be changed?Should they be? Just because it's "who you are," does that make it okay? When do you have to draw the line? When is it not acceptable?

I know somebody whose life revolves around sex. He lives to pleasure himself: It is the single most important thing in his life. He believes it defines who he is. He is nineteen years old and has had sex with twelve people, so he claims, ranging from thirteen- and fourteen-year-olds to girls his own age, and from nameless women to his best friend's mother. Does this sound all right to you?
He wants that number to be higher. He will have sex with anybody, as long as they don't have diseases and look too childish or too old. What is too childish and old, you ask, to a man—boy—who would have sex with a seventh grader and his best friend's mother? I cannot answer that. I don't know. I can't figure this guy out. Can you? What do you think?

He's sly. You don't see the wolf underneath the sheep's skin.
He once informed me that it is "generally okay" for guys to tell one girl they love them, but go on a date with a different girl the next night, and fuck somebody else that morning.
Just like the old cliché, "A guy fucks 10 girls, he's the man, a girl fucks 10 guys then she's a whore.” Is that right? Is that the way society works? Do you want somebody to do that to you?
If not, stay away from him. He is the worst kind of person. He gets close to you, takes what he wants, and keeps pacifying—not satisfying--you until he is finished with you. He convinces you to go against your standards and ideals, so he can get what he wants.
I believe he must have a chemical imbalance in his mind, or, so to speak, is, "seriously fucked up." Do you think it's normal to use people like that, and to think that it is "generally okay?”
He tells himself that he's not doing anything wrong, and when the girls find out about the shit he's pulling on them, he somehow manages to play innocent and get them to feel sorry for him. Don't fall for it. DO NOT FALL FOR IT. Don't let him suck you in to his world of bullshit. Nothing he can ever say or do to you is true in his heart. He is a selfish, self-centered asshole from hell, who cares only about himself and is only out to get what he wants, no matter who he steps on in the process.

Let me tell you a few of his stories:

He lost his virginity to a thirteen-year-old girl the summer before is sophomore year. So people make mistakes, right? Okay.
His next fuck was also 13-years-old. She was in the eighth grade while he was a junior in high school. These two "fucked like jackrabbits,” as most people who knew them said. They experimented with all sorts of shit. I personally think an eighth grader is a little young to be experimenting with, but girls that young are the only ones naive enough to not see through him. They do not know what is right and what is wrong. I mean, getting yourself off with an electric toothbrush? Not something most eighth graders even think about doing!
Now, even though sex is the most important thing in his life, he does have a heart. (I know, can you believe it?) So he had a relationship with this girl. It lasted quite a while, too. Unfortunately for our star sexpot, she didn't want him anymore and, to prove it, she had sex with his best friend. Ouch, you can bet that hurt. However, shit happens, and I am certain he would have done the same thing eventually.
While "on the rebound,” he had sex with someone in his class, and also slept with a 21-year-old woman who had a child, and whom he barely knew.
Now, he went without for a while. People knew, for the most part, what he was all about, and could tell that he was bad news. Everywhere he went, he hit on all the girls and tried to sleep with them. Despite his hard work, he never succeeded, because most girls aren't into that. They might not want a relationship, but they at least did not want some used up piece of trash that was only out for sex and didn’t give a damn about them. Am I right?
Well, after a long wait, he finally came upon a 14-year-old girl who wasn't too sure about him. He pursued her for quite a while, but she could pretty much tell what he was out for, and told him there was no chance—at first. As the year went on, the young freshman began to come around and warm up to him, a senior. Sure, he had been a bad guy in the past, but everybody makes mistakes and has flaws. As long as he was done with his, he would be fine, right? Sure.
So they hooked up. He took her virginity, pledged his love to her, and she allowed herself to be under his complete control. BAD IDEA!!!
Not even two months into the relationship, she caught him making plans to have sex with a former close friend. That wasn’t too cool, at least in my opinion. After repeatedly denying it, he finally came clean and the girl forgave him. They continued throughout the school year with him making passes on every girl he thought of as a possible fuck, his girlfriend oblivious to it all. After a while, she began to catch on and suspect, but loved him too much to make a big deal of it. She stupidly chose not to believe the truth and allowed herself to be used. Moreover, when I say used, I mean she did whatever he asked of her, getting hardly anything in return. She would have sex with him whenever he wanted. She stopped talking to other guys she knew. She spent all of her free time, cash, and energy on him. She gave him basically everything she was capable of giving.
Let me give you a partial idea of some of the things he put her through: bladder infections, lies, pregnancy scares, lies, cops, lies, probation, lies, endless arguments, and more lies. Not to mention convincing her to do many things she would not have done had she not loved him so much.
Thankfully, she finally got tired of it and ended the relationship in the beginning of the summer. Of course, he continued to tell her how much he cared about her and how he would do anything to get back together. "Okay," she said, "Become somebody I can trust, and I'll go back out with you." For a few weeks, he was all right. No lies, no come-ons: He was just a good friend. She believed that he was truly sorry, so she invited him over one night. After hours of watching movies and talking, the girl fell asleep. Guess what happened next? She awoke at 5 a.m. to one of his hands down her pants, while the other was stroked his rather erect dick. Needless to say, this scared the piss out of her, and she demanded that he leave immediately. I mean COME ON! Would that not freak you out? What kind of sick fuck messes with somebody in her sleep, especially when he knows she is very emotional about that kind of stuff, and it was the root of all their problems in the first place?
It was not good. It was not good at all.
Moving right along. He continued throughout summer to talk to his ex and tell her that he still wanted to be with her. Yet, at the same time, he messed around with a few other girls. One of them deserves her own story.
This girl was completely, head-over-heels, madly in love with him. She (as is true with most of his girls) was a virgin, and planned to keep herself that way for a long time. Yet, (as is true with most of his girls) she gave herself to him, an enormous sacrifice, in hopes to gain his love in return. Did he know that? Yes. Did he care? Obviously not. He used this girl as his own "personal shrink,” because she listened to everything he had to say, and was always there for him and behind him. He also used her to get himself off, which is incredibly disgusting and immoral. Do you like this guy yet?
Even though he knew that she was giving him everything she had, he also connived a way to get her to put up with his horseshit. That went on for a while, and then he went to college. He fucked random sorority sluts there, but, OF COURSE, denied it to the girl back home, to whom he kept up his charade of 'wanting but not getting'. This girl stayed miserable, because she did not know whether to believe the guy who'd lied so much in the past. Also, the other girl (his shrink/sex girl) was going through her own hell, because she didn't know what to do to get him to give her the love she was undeniably feeling for him and wanted so much in return. In fact, one day the ex even asked the guy about the other girl, and he denied it and made the ex feel retarded for even asking.
But then one day the clouds parted and God said "It will be okay!" The ex found a new guy, one who treated her like girls should be treated. There was no longer the fear of being forced to do something she didn't want to do. There was no longer the fear of your boyfriend finding somebody else when you wouldn't put out. There were no more lies. Instead, there was only happiness and peace. It was good.
Now, the guy found out about his ex's new boyfriend, and became very upset. He told her he hated her, and he cried. He said he could not believe that she had found somebody else, that he could never do that. Wait, you say, hasn't he been having sex and other fooling around with numerous other girls during the summer and the school year? Why, yes, he has! Is he going to tell the girl that? Why, no, he is not. "What she don't know won't hurt her, but if she knows, there goes all the fun!”
He made the girl think he was totally hurt and blown away by her decision to be with this new, wonderful guy. She went through her own personal hell, thinking she brought so much pain upon someone she once loved so much.
Time went by, and he fucked other girls and told more lies, and his ex tried to be happy with her new guy. A couple of times, she caught the guy--who was now attempting to be her 'friend'--in some lies, and she quit talking to him completely. Unfortunately, she was stupid and always eventually warmed up to him and let him come around again.
She gave the guy chance after chance to regain his status as a trustworthy friend in her eyes, but he blew it every time by caring about himself and no one else.
--This story is exhausting, isn't it?--
Well, many fucks and lies later, she is now tired. She is tired of him, and she is tired of his bullshit. He still claims that he wants to be with her, yet he will not do the one thing she asks of him. It is an endless circle of lies, deceit, lust, greed, and his own sick obsession with control.
I told this story because it needed to be told. For all of you who read it and want more details, or just want to give me some feedback, e-mail me at steppedon31@hotmail.com

I suppose the saddest thing of all is : I love this guy.

Date people your own age.

Not to be cold-hearted (I am anyway), but this story isn't sad in the "oh I feel sorry for you" kind of way, but rather in the "you're pathetic" kind of way.

Yep, pathetic, both for the girl(s) involved, and the guy.

sounds like this guy should have his penis cut off

For some reason women are attracted to guys like that. Is it because they think they can change him? Make him mend his ways? Whatever the reason, it only adds to the old cliche that nice guys finish last.

Dammit Pat, now you got that song stuck in my head!

how can you, knowing all of this, love this guy? seriously? who has the mental problem? him or YOU! i think you do because you know what he does and you love him? get the fuck over him. and basically, this post was worthless.... cause i can't decide what you really wanted. sympathy or a swift kick in the head, either way you'll get what you deserve. so go ahead love him if you must, but i hope you get a disease from him and die a very slow and painful death, or you can get over him and live a happy caring life, with someone "normal" according to your standards. so basically tell him to fuck off, eat shit and die.

If you're one of the girls in the story or somethin, you really just gotta let go of him. My sister was in an abusive relationship for a year or two. She got counseling eventually and everything's okay now (a few years after the end of the relationship). If you find yourself loving him (which you said you do) and you know this much bad stuff about him, go get counseling. Really. It helped my sister enormously.. and don't feel ashamed about it either. It's the smart thing to do.

I agree totally. See this thing start to happen all the time, really puzzles me and even angers me. I don't get it.

Anyway, you need to get over this guy. I don't have alot of relationship experience, but try your best to just let go. Don't talk to him or have anything to do to him if you can avoid it. It can be done, time to move on and get the sorry bastard out of your life.

Sounds like somebody from Waynesville.

Sounds like this girl is just trying to find someone by telling her story in very public forum. Whatever works for you...but let me go on the record saying that there is alcohol. The bottle has never once cheated on me, sure we fight occasionally but we always get back together. Go out an enjoy St. Pat's

ok, look, i truly feel sorry for you, but for god's sake, WAKE THE FUCK UP!!!!

i had a friend who sounded just like you....... put up with the most bullshit guys that really need to get the fuck beaten out of them, and then the guy that you go crying to, the same guy that would treat you like a fucking princess, the same guy that actually cares about you and not about getting laid, that same guy that wouldn't pull bullshit stunts like that..... is only a friend....

what the fuck???


am i just missing something..... do girls go to a special class to learn these retarded routines of finding the dumbest fucking humans with a dick???

AARRGGG

i love my girlfriend, always have and wouldn't even think about pulling shit like that...... and you know what, she knows that, which makes life a lot better, since i know she wouldn't even tolerate that kind of shit.....

I NEED AN EXPLANATION!!!!

post nudes kthxbye.

oh and: http://www.livejournal.com

and finally, on a more serious note, set some standards for yourself.

that was long, I am suprised this many people took the time to read it.